Christian couples counseling in Rowlett, Texas focuses on improving intimacy and resolving conflicts by helping you and your partner improve your communication skills, uncover the root causes of your problems, and learn to better understand each other. Being able to share your needs and feelings with an impartial third party in a safe space can make all the difference in feeling heard and understood.

What to expect in couples counseling

Relationships can be tough for everyone, and most couples experience conflict at some point or another in theirs. Couples can turn to counseling when they get stuck on any kind of issue.

Couples counseling tends to be short term and focused on the present. You and your partner will meet together with a trained couples counselor to work on your relationship issues. The focus will be on the specific challenge that brought you into therapy, and on treating the relationship itself rather than each of you separately. Your counselor will show you how to develop healthier ways of relating to each other, as well as teach you how to make the adjustments needed to overcome your current problems.

At Rowlett Christian Counseling, your first couples counseling session will be spent learning about you and your specific needs. Your counselor will ask questions about your individual histories, as well as the history of your relationship. How you met, what your dating experience was like, the main problem you are experiencing, what causes the most stress within your relationship, and your personal, subjective perceptions about the successes and difficulties you’ve experienced during your time together.

He/she will assess the dynamics of your relationship, discuss your strengths and weaknesses, talk about how you interact with each other, consider the things that trigger you, and look for underlying themes. Once the root of your relationship issues has been pinpointed, he/she will help you develop a plan of action and timeline for resolving them.

How couples counseling can help you

Couples counseling at Rowlett Christian Counseling can help you do the following: 

  • Gain a better understanding of each other by exploring the dynamics of your relationship, the roles you each play, and by having you address the differences in your expectations.
  • Manage disputes in a more peaceful manner by learning to understand each other’s perspectives, and by objectively looking at both sides of the disagreement.
  • Repair broken communications and learn how to more effectively express your needs.
  • Work through relationship roadblocks such as differences over major decisions that need to be made, by looking for the real issue behind the topics you disagree about, addressing and understanding both your points of view, seeing if your values are aligned, and then figuring out if and how you can come to a resolution.
  • Deepen your intimacy and connection with your partner, and reignite the feelings that brought you together at the beginning of your relationship when you first met.
  • Reduce financial tensions by helping you understand your relationship with money, become more aware of your spending behaviors, and developing more financial empathy for one another.
  • Build a shared, agreed-upon definition of fidelity within your relationship.
  • Learn proper coping mechanisms for handling conflict and diffusing arguments in a healthy way before they have a chance to grow larger and more damaging.
  • Explore, understand, and clarify your feelings about it so that you can decide what direction you want to take moving forward, and if you decide to end the relationship, how to do so on a good note.
  • Rebuild trust by exploring how it was broken, working on forgiveness, and setting new boundaries so healing can begin.
  • Find a safe and supportive environment in which to discuss and work through sensitive issues you are having a hard time bringing up and/or discussing in your relationship.
  • Support each other as you move through difficult seasons in your relationship such as health challenges, grief, or other major life changes.

When is the best time to go for couples counseling

Many couples don’t seek counseling until their relationship is in real trouble. They’re constantly fighting, or experiencing a lack of intimacy, or considering breaking up. Ideally, however, the best time to go for couples counseling is before you’re in a crisis. Though couples counseling at Rowlett Christian Counseling can be a great resource while you’re in the midst of a specific challenge in your relationship, it can also be used as a preventative measure that puts you in a much better position to nip larger issues in the bud.

Most common types of couples counseling techniques

Following are some common types of couples counseling techniques. At Rowlett Christian Counseling, the trained counselors will tailor their treatment plan to whatever works best for the needs of your particular relationship. 

  • Gottman Method. Gottman’s basic premise is that conflicts are a normal part of relationships, and couples need to learn how to manage them through positive communication rather than by becoming defensive, critical, condescending, or deceptive. The focus is on addressing areas of conflict between you and your partner, equipping you with problem-solving skills, and improving the quality of friendship and level of intimacy between you.
  • Emotionally focused therapy (EFT). EFT focuses on identifying you and your partner’s emotional needs and helping you meet them for one another by improving the attachment and bonding between you and by developing your emotional awareness, compassion, and acceptance, so as to establish a feeling of emotional safety with each other.
  • Imago relationship therapy. Imago relationship therapy focuses on teaching you how to engage your partner in conversation during a conflict by repeating what they’re saying back to them in a way that is non-combative and that makes them feel understood.
  • Psychodynamic couples therapy. Psychodynamic couples therapy is focused on helping you and your partner understand each other better through exploring the hopes and fears that motivate you.
  • Behavioral couples therapy (BCT). BCT focuses on shaping your behavior towards each other by reinforcing positive behaviors that promote stability and satisfaction in the relationship, and discouraging behaviors that foster negativity.
  • Cognitive behavioral couples therapy (CBCT). CBCT focuses on teaching you how to identify and change thought patterns that have a negative influence on your behavior.
  • Solution focused couples therapy. Solutions focused couples therapy is a short term, future oriented form of therapy that focuses on helping you identify your goals as a couple and how to achieve them.
  • Premarital counseling. Premarital counseling focuses on helping you and your partner build a solid, biblical foundation for a marriage that will glorify God. It also helps you address relationship expectations, as well as dialogue about situations you will face in your marriage such as managing money and finances, dealing with in-laws, having children, and who will be responsible for what.

Christian versus secular couples counseling

Christian counseling involves a combination of biblical principles and clinical intervention to help you find healing and wellness with God’s help. Choosing a counselor with a biblical perspective ensures that your Christian values will be supported and you will receive counsel in keeping with God’s will.

If you have questions or would like to set up an appointment, please give us a call today at Rowlett Christian Counseling. We would be happy to discuss how we can help you manage the challenges you are facing and walk you through the healing process.