Discover Help and Healing After Miscarriage

A miscarriage can be devastating to a woman and her family, but healing is possible over time. Healing occurs on multiple levels, including physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Learning what to do after a miscarriage can promote healing and strengthen your relationship with your spouse.

Tips for Healing After Miscarriage

Healing after a miscarriage requires time to process the loss and grieve. You will want to find ways to memorialize your baby and strengthen your bond with your spouse.

The following are several tips for healing after a miscarriage.

Allow Yourself to Grieve

Grief takes as long as you need it. Don’t rush the process. Whether you suffered loss in the first trimester or in the 36^th week, the loss and pain are real. It is a traumatic experience. Losing a child feels unnatural because we were meant to live forever, but in a fallen world, we experience death and pain until Jesus returns. Allow yourself the time and space to grieve your way.

Get Connected to Other Women

Unfortunately, miscarriages do happen, and many women suffer through the loss each year. Connecting with women who have walked the path you are on can help you process and heal after a miscarriage. Join a support group or research local and virtual groups online. If you opt to attend counseling, ask your counselor about local support groups.

Talk to Your Spouse

As a woman, it is easy to get caught in the grieving process, as you were the one who carried this precious life inside of you. But your spouse is also grieving, and we all grieve differently. Talk to your spouse.

If your first inclination is to withdraw, discuss this with your husband. Maybe his reaction is to cling to you. Work together to remember the life of your baby while also coming to accept that you now live in a new normal and your future may look different from what you imagined.

Take Care of Your Physical Body

When your mind is elsewhere, it is easy to forget about your physical needs. But meeting your physical needs will boost your mood and outlook. Choose nutritious meals, rest when your body calls for it, and stay hydrated. Keep an eye on any physical changes and follow your doctor’s instructions about pelvic care during this time.

If your circumstance required surgery, consult with your doctor before becoming physically active too soon. Once cleared, walking is an effective exercise to help with the healing process.

Maintain Proper Hygiene

Don’t neglect personal hygiene. Postpartum blues can still be problematic after miscarriage and cause you to lose your motivation to care for your needs. Make it a goal to shower or bathe once daily, moisturize your body, and spritz on your favorite scent. You may not feel like getting dressed for the first few days, so choose clean and comfy clothing to wear after your shower. A clean and moisturized face can also boost your mood and make you feel more like yourself.

Honor Your Baby

If the miscarriage occurred late in pregnancy, you may have already named your baby. If it occurred earlier, name your baby. Giving a name to your child and acknowledging that they are in Jesus’ arms provides you with a sense of closure and allows you to honor their memory. Instead of dreading the date, find ways to memorialize it. For example, write a poem every year or install a bench in their name.

Talk to God

God is the Healer and Comforter. He knows our hurts even when we struggle to find the words to pray. You may be afraid of the future, not knowing if another pregnancy will ever happen or if you want it to. That’s okay. Pour out your heart to Him. Jesus walks with you through every trial as well as every blessing.

Spend a few minutes talking to God in the morning and before bed. Try to remember to pray before you get out of bed in the morning and as soon as your head hits the pillow at night. Talk to Him throughout the day when the waves of grief come. He can provide you with a peace that surpasses all understanding.

Help After Miscarriage

If you are struggling physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually after a miscarriage, please reach out to our office today to schedule a session. You don’t have to go through this alone. A representative will match you with a counselor knowledgeable in grief and loss, especially after miscarriage. Call us today to get started.