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What You Should Know About Passive Aggressive Behavior

What You Should Know About Passive Aggressive Behavior

Melissa Plantz2026-01-27T05:59:15+00:00January 27th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Do you know someone who uses passive-aggressive tactics to manipulate others? There are several forms of passive-aggressive behavior, but the truth is that a deeper reason lies behind the deception and mean-spiritedness. What is passive-aggressive behavior? Passive-aggressive behavior is a common coping mechanism employed by many individuals. Unfortunately, it is not a direct way to communicate or resolve conflict. Often, these traits exacerbate the situation. You have likely observed some of the following passive-aggressive behaviors. Leaving Hateful Notes The note in the break room telling people to clean up or else, or the note on your bathroom mirror reminding you that only slobs don’t clean the sink, are examples of passive-aggression. People with passive-aggressive behaviors applaud themselves for “telling” people off through notes. Complaining to Others Grumbling or complaining to others, but never to your face, is another tactic. They may make remarks to others, even angrily or bitterly, yet only smile at you or, at least, act indifferent. Intentionally Messing Up Tasks so Others Have To Do Them Sabotaging tasks or procrastinating for so long that you have no choice but to complete the work is a passive-aggressive ploy. It may be that they are angry with you or feel overwhelmed with the tasks, but instead of expressing their displeasure, they hide out or mess things up. Giving Back-Handed Compliments People with passive-aggressive behaviors are skilled at delivering backhanded compliments, which can be vaguely insulting. They may make sarcastic remarks and then laugh them off as a joke when you confront them about it. Posting Pointed Social Media Posts Without Naming Names Another tactic is posting rude or mean things on social media, almost sounding as if they are justifiably calling someone out. However, they never tag the person and may even block that person from seeing the [...]

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Ways to Help Anxiety When You Can’t Sleep

Ways to Help Anxiety When You Can’t Sleep

Stephanie Kramer2026-01-21T11:27:56+00:00January 20th, 2026|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Sleeping is supposed to be one of the natural occurrences in your life, like breathing. Your body is supposed to know how to do it instinctively. Lie down, close your eyes, and drift to sleep. Right? But in the real world of frantic schedules, noisy neighbors, and a mountain of bills, sleep doesn’t always come naturally; sometimes anxiety gets in the way. Add anxiety, and you’re in for a night of turmoil. Anxiety is the enemy of a good night’s sleep. Your mind races along with your heart. And no amount of warm milk or counting sheep seems to compensate for the constant movie reel playing in your head. The one showing you what your worst fear may look like if it were really to happen (which you’ve convinced yourself will happen). Or replaying that awkward encounter you had last week. Trying to immediately overcome your battle with anxiety, a battle you’ve likely fought for a long time, isn’t practical. Not at two in the morning. Not when you have an important meeting the next day. But existing, productively, and healthily with your anxiety? Now that’s the way to a better night’s rest. What can I do about anxiety when I can't sleep? So, what can you actually do when it’s the middle of the night and your thoughts just won’t shut up and sleep is playing hard to get? Start small Start simple. Breathe like you mean it. Not deep, dramatic breaths, just steady ones. In through your nose and out through your mouth. Count them if it helps. Or whisper something calming to yourself like “This will pass,” or lean on your faith with a quick reminder that “God is in control.” Because it will pass and God is in control. Get out of bed if you [...]

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How to Forgive: Dealing with Toxic and Dysfunctional Family Members

How to Forgive: Dealing with Toxic and Dysfunctional Family Members

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2026-01-03T06:23:09+00:00January 5th, 2026|Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

There aren’t any relationships quite like the relationship you have with your family. You can have “found family,” the people you gather around yourself as you make your way through life, and those relationships can be influential and life-changing. Your family, however, is that group of people you didn’t choose to be connected to, and maybe you wouldn’t ever pick them if you had the opportunity. However, it came about, family is a tie that binds. Putting it like that almost makes it seem as though families are more trouble than they’re worth, and more likely to be troublesome than not. Families are the first community we find ourselves part of, and they can be an amazing community of nurture and learning. These communities, like any other community, can be beautiful, but they can also be dysfunctional. What do you do when your family is toxic or dysfunctional? Various Ways Families May Be Dysfunctional When one or more people come together for a common cause, the door is open to issues such as unbalanced power dynamics, unhealthy communication, conflict, and personality clashes. There are different ways for a family to be dysfunctional, and each family can manifest dysfunction in its own unique way. Some common patterns of dysfunction in families include the following: Emotional dysfunction This includes issues such as emotional abuse, neglect, and placing unrealistic expectations upon family members. Abuse can take the form of belittling humor, emotional manipulation, and verbal aggression. Ignoring or being dismissive of family members’ needs is emotional neglect. Families are also spaces where excessive pressure to succeed is often placed on people. Communication breakdown Communication is the lifeblood of a relationship, and there are various ways it can break down. Dysfunction might take the form of passive-aggressive behavior, being overly critical of one [...]

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12 Unhealthy Habits to Avoid When You Stop Drinking Alcohol

12 Unhealthy Habits to Avoid When You Stop Drinking Alcohol

Grace Mavindidze2025-11-27T06:22:20+00:00November 27th, 2025|Chemical Dependency, Featured, Individual Counseling|

The decision to stop drinking alcohol is an amazing step toward healing and renewal. It will bring you much more clarity, restore relationships, and allow space for God’s guidance into your daily life. Of course, it won’t always be easy. Some struggles may catch you off guard. Even everyday moments like coming home after a long day, watching others drink at a gathering, or feeling stressed and unsure of how to fill that gap, will give you some new hurdles to get over. The habits you had built around drinking, like always having a drink while watching TV or turning to alcohol for comfort, will still be drawing you in to get back to the usual. But staying sober isn’t just about avoiding alcohol; it’s about reshaping routines, leaning on faith, and making choices that support this new path. Some things that you think you should do that seem harmless might actually make it harder to stay strong. Everyday Habits That Can Make Sobriety Harder Relying too much on caffeine Switching from alcohol to coffee or energy drinks might seem like a harmless trade, but too much caffeine will only leave you more anxious, restless, and tossing and turning all night. Staying hydrated with water and herbal teas is a better way to stay clear-headed. Spending too much time watching TV Binge-watching shows may seem like an easy way to pass the time, but you’ll find yourself still skipping responsibilities, avoiding social interactions, and neglecting personal growth. Finding balance in healthy activities like reading, exercising, or connecting with others is the way to go. Constantly being online Social media can be a great entertainer, but too much of it will eventually stress you more as you expose yourself to impersonal, sometimes unrealistic stuff. Limiting screen time and focusing on [...]

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5 Ways to Increase Teamwork in Marriage

5 Ways to Increase Teamwork in Marriage

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2025-11-22T07:38:57+00:00November 24th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Marriage requires teamwork. When a couple drifts apart due to conflict, differences in personality, or general busyness, it can become easier for them to become more individualistic in their marriage. The couple must work toward becoming a team to deal with whatever life throws at them. This also helps reduce the amount of conflict and the instances of divorce. Teamwork in marriage can be easier said than done. When personalities clash or two spouses are strong leadership types, it can be difficult for them to embrace teamwork. However, there are ways to increase teamwork in marriage that will celebrate their differences and embrace each other’s traits to create a strong partnership in the present and future. 5 Ways to Increase Teamwork in Marriage Here are five ways to increase teamwork in marriage: Pray One of the primary activities a Christian couple should do is pray together regularly. Even if a couple has not been used to praying with each other regularly, there’s no time like the present. In prayer, a couple can bring requests, struggles, and difficulties to God. Prayer promotes intimacy and trust in both parties as they pray for each other. When a couple acknowledges God as the Lord of their marriage, it increases the likelihood of success. God wants couples to be happy in their marriage and embrace their different roles. Although Ephesians 5 talks about the husband being the head and the woman being submissive, it also talks about the importance of submitting to Christ. When both parties submit to Christ and yield their lives to his will, they will embrace teamwork and become more united as a team. Submission is a vital element for both parties to adopt in marriage. The husband sacrificially loves the wife, the wife submits to the husband, and both submit [...]

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How to Communicate Better with Your Grandchildren from Afar

How to Communicate Better with Your Grandchildren from Afar

Stephanie Kramer2025-10-30T06:01:14+00:00October 30th, 2025|Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Who wouldn’t want to be there to see their grandchild take their first step or be on stage for their first solo? But life is complicated, and geographical distance often prevents grandparents from being as involved in their grandchildren’s lives as they would like. And while it might feel like a good idea to move closer to the grandkids, that is sometimes not an option for many practical reasons.So how do you compensate for the miles-wide chasm between you? Here are some ideas to help you stay invested and relevant in your grandchildren’s lives, even though miles may separate you.Speak Their LanguageThe generational gap is never more obvious than when an older adult tries to have a conversation with a teen. If your grandchildren are in their pre-teen or teen years, you may have noticed a few “sigmas” and “skibidis” thrown into their conversation. As confusing as these slang terms are to you, they are part of your grandchild’s generational culture. It’s important to try to understand their language, not just the slang words that come out of their mouth, but the deeper meaning behind their words.Don’t assume you know what your grandchild thinks or feels; ask them. Don’t assume their political leanings are the same as yours or even their parents. Don’t assume that they enjoy the activities they did five years ago. Learn about your grandchildren by being open-minded and humble and asking questions.While you need to set a good example for your grandchildren, you need to have an understanding of their beliefs and their respect before your opinion will impact them.Remember the Special OccasionsOf course, you don’t want to be in their life just on special occasions, but birthdays and Christmas are great times to make a connection with the grandchildren. These holidays allow you to give [...]

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Signs of Marital Problems and How to Address Them

Signs of Marital Problems and How to Address Them

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2025-10-09T06:01:01+00:00October 9th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

There is a story of a man named Hiroo Onoda, a Japanese second lieutenant in the Imperial Japanese Army, who didn’t know that World War 2 was over. For almost three decades after the war ended, Onoda, who was stationed on Lubang Island in the Philippines, remained in his post, convinced that the war was still ongoing. He only left the island in March 1974 when his former commanding officer was flown in to facilitate Onoda’s surrender. One of the many remarkable things about this story is how the world was changing rapidly around Onoda, but he didn’t have a clue about it. Seismic changes can occur in one’s life, and it’s not always obvious to you, even though other people around you can see what’s happening. This can occur in marriage; you may have problems, but end up missing the signs that things aren’t as they should be. Different Types of Marital Problems Marital problems take various forms, and they can flow from different aspects of a relationship. Some of the more common types of marital problems that couples encounter include communication issues, a lack of intimacy or emotional disconnection, unresolved conflicts that lead to resentment and anger, financial issues, and unequal distribution of responsibilities and household chores. Marriages may also face trust issues and difficulty trusting one another due to past behaviors such as infidelity. There may also be personal differences, conflicting values, interests, or lifestyle choices that cause friction between the spouses. Lastly, there may also be unaddressed mental health issues that may be affecting the relationship and the dynamics between the couple. While these and other kinds of issues may be present in a relationship, the couple may not see these issues for what they are. That happens for a variety of reasons. How and [...]

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The Power of the Tongue: A Weapon or a Witness?

The Power of the Tongue: A Weapon or a Witness?

Stephanie Kramer2025-09-27T08:38:14+00:00September 27th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Words are powerful. They can build people up, teach them about the Lord, and communicate love. But there is a dark side to the small but mighty tongue. Sometimes it can tear people down, separate them from the love of the Lord, and communicate hate and gossip. Most of us learn pretty early on about the power of words. Maybe you learned it through a cruel nickname that stuck longer than the memory of its origin or maybe it was a simple, but well-placed “I believe in you” that changed the direction of your whole life. The Bible doesn’t tiptoe around the truth about the words we speak. Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) says it loud and clear: “The tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruits.” Life or death? That’s serious business. It means every time we open our mouths (an argument could be made that our texting fingers are likewise accountable), we’re making a choice. Do we want to give someone life, or do we want to crush them? That sounds pretty dramatic, but it’s true. Remember that one time when someone said something encouraging to you when you were drowning in self-doubt? Their words were like a warm light cutting through the fog and leading you to a better place. Or maybe you still hear the voice of a critic echoing something hurtful that is hard to shake, even years later. That’s the power of the tongue. Words as Weapons Sometimes we weaponize our words without meaning to. You might be stressed, tired, or in pain and you snap. Sarcasm, criticism, gossip, blame – all of it can be deadly at the wrong moment. James 3:6 (NIV) puts it like this: “The tongue also is a fire, a world of [...]

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7 Signs of Unresolved Trauma in Men

7 Signs of Unresolved Trauma in Men

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2025-09-02T09:56:37+00:00September 2nd, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Trauma|

The vast majority of people will have to navigate trauma at some point in their lives, if not in themselves, then with their loved ones. Unresolved trauma lies unseen in a person, usually only becoming apparent in our adult lives as we enter serious relationships. Trauma manifests uniquely in everyone. However, some common signs of trauma can be specific to gender. Whether it is in the way they handle their emotions or in the way that they have been affected by toxic masculinity, unresolved trauma is often at the root of behavioral problems that affect and damage men’s relationships. If we want to have healthy and intimate relationships, we might have to begin addressing the unresolved trauma in our lives. Old Wounds Some traumas are ongoing and complex, causing much damage and leaving noticeable marks on a person. However, some events barely even register as traumatic. It is only later in life, when issues pop up, that we might realize we were deeply affected by trauma. The common saying that ‘time heals all wounds’ is untrue; all that time does is cover the memory of the trauma. When a person experiences trauma, especially if it is ongoing trauma, they build beliefs around the traumatic events. For example, a child who is frequently left alone or ignored will begin to believe that they are unworthy of anyone’s attention and care. When a person doesn’t quite understand why they are being treated a certain way, they tend to fill in the blanks. Sometimes they do this in the most hurtful of ways, coming to the bleakest conclusions about themselves. Seven Signs of Unresolved Trauma in Men When you peel back the layers, at the core of any trauma is the feeling of being unsafe. Men and boys in America are conditioned and [...]

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Types of Mentoring and Christian Coaching in Rowlett, Texas

Types of Mentoring and Christian Coaching in Rowlett, Texas

Melissa Plantz2025-08-13T06:49:20+00:00August 13th, 2025|Coaching, Featured, Personal Development, Professional Development, Spiritual Development|

Looking for Christian coaching in Rowlett, Texas? We can help. Coaching has reached a market value of more than 2 billion dollars and continues to grow. People love the accessibility of coaching and mentoring in both in-person and virtual formats. Several types and styles of coaching are available, including Christian coaching in Rowlett, Texas. Types of Mentoring and Coaching in Rowlett, Texas You can find coaching and mentoring for just about any topic. You can find coaching programs covering the following topics and more: Career advancement Getting back into the workforce Losing weight Getting healthy Tackling emotional eating Specific craft-related coaching Relationships Spiritual journey Organizing the home Leadership The following is a list of the types of coaching and mentoring available in Texas. Professional Coaching Professional coaching can help you get back into the workforce after a long period away or gain new skills for career advancement. You can also learn leadership skills to manage large organizations successfully. Spiritual Coaching At Texas Christian Counseling, Rowlett, spiritual coaching can help when you need guidance from the Lord in your relationships and personal life. It combines a coach’s wisdom and training with faith-based principles to draw you closer to Christ. A local church may offer spiritual coaching. Health and Wellness Coaching If you desire a healthier lifestyle for a stronger and more vibrant life physically, mentally, and emotionally, health and wellness coaching might be a better fit for you. Your coach can help you create goals, design tasks to track, and address any concerns for overall health. Weight Loss Coaching Losing weight can be incredibly challenging, especially if you have a lot of weight to lose or need a shift in perspective. Weight loss coaching can help you create realistic goals, implement tasks, track progress, and reassess as necessary. Weight loss [...]

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